The subtle art of not giving a fuck – book review
Okay. So this book, in one word. Fucking brilliant. Damnit. Two words then.
I already feel like I do a pretty good job at not “giving a fuck”, so this book really spoke to me. I know, I know. Allison – this a mom blog. A parenting blog. What does this have anything to do with parenting. Well, it does. Can you just trust me?
Also, it’s $10 on Amazon – dude –
Now, let’s be honest here, I am a sucker for self-improvement books. I always have been. But not many of them last. Or, ya know, “stick”.
You read them and you’re all, YES! I’m ready to be happy all the time and work my ass off to get what I want in life. And then it fades. And then you’re hitting snooze 3 times each morning and skipping making your monthly goals and no longer doing morning yoga each day.
This is the kind of book that will hit you hard. Mark Manson super honest (super fucky) and will tell you how it is. This book won’t make you happy. It won’t make you better. It will just make you more efficient and able to focus on the things that matter. You’ll learn what you want to give a fuck about and how to give less fucks about the shit that doesn’t matter.
Did your kids eat candy canes for breakfast? What’s the big deal? Now, if you’re kids are eating candy canes for breakfast every day, then you might want to give a fuck. –That example only came to my mind because my kids, did in fact eat candy canes for breakfast this morning. They are on our christmas tree. I’ve moved the rest of them up to the top of the tree 😉
Instead of aiming for that perfect instagram worthy life, with the perfect kids, perfect husband and perfectly funny memes, Mark suggests asking the question, “What problem do you want to have?”
Duh! We will all have problems. They don’t ever go away. There won’t be a time in your life when you’re like, “man, this shit is great. I have ZERO problems”. Won’t happen. So you have to choose what to care about.
“You are already choosing, in every moment of every day, what to give a fuck about, so change is as simple as choosing to give a fuck about something else. It’s really that simple. It’s just not easy.” – MM
So choose what to care about and care about it deeply. Pour your heart and soul into it.
Feel scared yet? Like you have an idea of what you want to do, but you just don’t know how to do it. Okay, I’m going to quote more of the book. But this is pretty much my favorite quote –
“When I was in high school, my math teacher Mr. Packwood used to say, “If you’re suck on a problem, don’t sit there and think about it; just start working on it. Even if you don’t know what you’re doing, the simple act of working on it will eventually cause the right ideas to show up in your head.”” – MM
Scared of being wrong? Do you fear change (hand raise emoji right here)?
I am so scared of change and being wrong, but for this book to really stick and change your life, you need to change things in your life and rearrange your priorities. More quoting –
“Because here’s something that’s weird but true: we don’t actually know what a positive or negative experience is. Some of the most difficult and stressful moments of our lives also end up being the most formative and motivating. Some of the best and most gratifying experiences of our lives are also the most distracting and demotivating. Don’t trust your conception of positive/negative experiences. All that we know for certain is what hurts in the moment and what doesn’t. And that’s not worth much.” – MM
Seriously – SO FUCKING TRUE!
Okay, hopefully I didn’t quote too much and prevent you from buying or checking out this book from your local library. It’s inspirational, quick and entertaining. Even if you just do a fun drinking game where you take a sip of wine every time Manson uses the word “fuck”. It’ll be worth it.